How To Deal With Negativity

When was the last time you dealt with a negative person? The reality is you have to deal with negative people almost on a daily basis.  There are negative people at home.  Then there are negative people in the workplace.  They are everywhere.  The next question is how do you deal with negativity as you will run into it quite often?

It is very sad when you live with a negative person. What’s even sadder is that those of us who work and who spend a lot of time outside of the home end up having to deal with negative coworkers.

My experience is that these people aren’t happy individuals. We have to trust they are going through something that is causing them to have this behavior.  They don’t know any other way to deal with it except to explode all over you.

It’s an explanation, but it is not acceptable behavior. People need to learn that it is not ok to bring their personal business into the work place.  They must learn to deal with the emotions and whatever else is going on with them before dealing not only with their family or coworkers, but many of these individuals are also dealing with the public.

Do you deal with this kind of behavior by reacting in the same negative manner? Or do you just accept the fact that no matter what you do or say it is not going to change that individual or the situation.  So, in most cases it is probably best to just smile and stay quiet.

I myself have dealt with this same kind of situation. I chose the higher ground as I knew I was not going to win the argument.  Having said that, this situation has spurred me on to continue on my path to freedom.  I have worked a lot of years and I am ready to leave the corporate world.

Thankfully I now have a vehicle that is moving me into my new life where I don’t have to deal with negative people all the time.  A life that will give me the freedom to come and go as I please and travel if I so desire.  A life where I can spend more time at home doing the things I love.

This vehicle is blogging and internet marketing.  I am learning new skills and no one is ever too young or too old to learn something new.  If I want to make changes in my life, I need new life skills.  Will it happen overnight? Perhaps not, but the idea is to keep striving for something more.

If you have to deal with negative individuals, do as I did and don’t bring yourself down to their level.  If you need to, make changes in your life to bring about the positive change that you have been searching for.



Tea Ceremonies From Around the World

Many cultures have tea ceremonies and rituals which I think is very cool, but totally unknown in this country . . . or is it? Some information taken from World Tea News shows that:   

 masala-chai-tea India: The Land of Chai Tea

India produces and consumes more tea than any other country in the world. Chai is the national drink in India and it is served literally on every street corner – especially in crowded train stations, where you can see people selling it at all times of the day and night. If you ever get invited to an Indian house (remember that here guests can drop by anytime without warning) prepare yourself to taste a sweet and a bit spiced milk-tea

matcha-tea-1  Japan: The Matcha Ceremony

In Japan tea is an important part of the food culture. Even though, the diversity of tea here is quite big, when someone mentions the word “tea” without specifying the type, it´s green to which is referred (green and Chinese tea are also some of the most popular ones). The ceremony of tea is known here as Matcha, which consists of serving green tea to a small group of people in one of those popular tea houses.

 moroccan-tea-ritual  Morocco: Mint Tea, The Heart of the Culture  

It is almost impossible to spend 24 hours in a Moroccan city and to not be served hot tea. Touareg tea, or Moroccan mint tea is literally the heart of their culture. Strongly linked to the act of hospitality, the mint tea is served to guests three times with each glass meaning a different thing – Life, love and death. Of course, all of them have to be drunk.

iced-tea USA: The Tea Explosion

Whether cold or warm, in the morning or at night, tea is one of the most popular non-alcoholic drinks in the States. Here it is possible to find green, red and even the oolong tea, the traditional Chinese tea. In this sense, it doesn´t matter the type of tea as they are all included in North American people’s healthy diet.  Here in the desert southwest, iced tea is consumed pretty much year round.

Today we can say that coffee is still preferred for the morning ritual, ice tea is often consumed with lunch and all types of tea are drunk in the evenings.

maori-lifestyles  New Zealand: The “tea-break”

According to historians, New Zealand imported considerable amounts of tea in the nineteenth century, with the arrival of the British missionaries. Today people experiment with other types of tea like the Japanese green tea, blends like earl grey, and Chinese teas such as oolong. Like in America, the interest for this drink comes from tea’s reputation and its health benefits.  

 british-tea   Britain: Classic Afternoon Tea

We all know that Britain is the place on the Earth where people can drink a cup of tea even before they go to bed. Yes, British people can’t live without this ancient drink which they brought from India from the time when Britain was an empire. Despite the coffee fuelled culture, tea is still the first hot drink chosen by the British population.

These are just a handful of countries listed.  This article talks about the rituals, but what about the health benefits of tea?

Teas contain antioxidants and phytochemicals.  Harvard Health reports that Green Tea is probably the most beneficial to health and contains these substances that may lower your risk of cardiovascular disease, cancer and heart disease.  Green tea may also build bone density and strength.  Tea is also very hydrating.

Green tea, black, white and red teas are all very immune building and of course tasty.   If you have a need to sweeten your tea, please only add raw organic sugar or stevia.  If you prefer honey, please only add organic raw honey to your beverage.  Most of all enjoy!  Create your own little ceremony.

Benefits of Green Tea


It seems the art of drinking tea is something new when in fact tradition shows it has been around for hundreds of years.  What did our ancestors know about the benefits of drinking tea that we don’t know, or are we just learning about it?

Green tea is made from Camellia sinensis, the same plant as black tea, but does not go through the oxidation process.   According to Wikipedia, there are several varieties of green tea which differ due to region, growing conditions, horticultural methods, production processing and time of harvest.

Some of the many benefits of green tea include weight loss, fresh breath, can reduce cholesterol, great for healthy skin, can help to keep allergies at bay, can help to maintain healthy hair, can manage blood pressure, can help to increase immunity, can help to prevent osteoporosis and can help to repair tissue.  There are many other benefits received by drinking green tea, but today I am focusing just a little on osteoporosis and tissue repair.

Low bone density is very common among women specifically after menopause.  Osteoporosis causes the bones to become weak and brittle which can lead to broken hips in elderly woman after a fall.  So how does drinking green tea help to maintain strong bones?  Green tea contains a high amount of fluoride which will help to keep the bones strong and which will help to prevent the health problems in elderly women and men.

How does drinking green tea help with tissue repair?  Add lemon to your tea.  This citrus is high in Vitamin C which is a very powerful antioxidant.  By mixing the juice of lemons with your tea it will help to develop and repair tissue in your body including blood vessels, skin, bones, teeth, ligaments and cartilage.  It also helps with wound healing.

As mentioned there are many benefits of drinking green tea.  I would encourage you to research further and find your need.  If you are blessed enough to have great health, just enjoy the tea!  The tea is great with or without sweetener.  If you choose to sweeten your tea, please add only a little organic raw honey or stevia to help maintain its health benefits.

Excerpts for this article were found at STYLECRAZE.COM


The Holidays Are Finally Over!

Our family has been incredibly busy with the holidays since Thanksgiving.  With the cooking and entertaining, it doesn’t leave much time for anything else.

Now I can get back to the business at hand.  I will be sharing more information on teas and tea rituals, soap making and making spa products.  I am not a professional nor do I profess to be one.  This is a journey for me and I am learning as much as I can.

I am currently enrolled in an introductory herb course so that I can learn more about the the things I love so that I can share that information with you.  I guess I am a glutton for punishment, as I am also taking a tea making course.  All this and working a full time job.

As I told a friend recently, never underestimate the power of a woman.  We can do it all!

Have a blessed New Year everyone!


Juggling Life With A Full Time Job



It’s not easy working a full day outside the home, then coming home to get chores done and start working your online businesses.

I am up a little before 4 a.m. every day. Once I am ready, I am generally out the door by 5:15 A.M.  I drive about 50 minutes one way.  I do my due diligence and I drive home for another 50 minutes this time fighting a lot of traffic.  This makes for a very stressful drive home.

Once home, I then take a few minutes to catch my breath before I start the usual household chores which include cleaning, cooking and prepping for the next day’s work. Then, if it is not too late and I am still energetic, I sit down and work on my businesses.  Many times my head does not hit the pillow till around 11 P.M. and if I am lucky I can get maybe 4.5 hours of sleep, but that is usually not the norm.  Then it starts all over again.

The problem is, I am not doing a good job juggling a job, chores and businesses. I  have a small shop on Etsy  where I make organic artisan soaps and spa products which is pure joy to me.  I am also trying to figure out online marketing and blogging.   Unfortunately, my businesses struggle because of my lack of time and energy to work them. So, there are times my posts are short, sweet and to the point or no posts at all. This was true especially with Thanksgiving and Christmas.  Talk about busy.  No time at all to work on anything other than getting the house ready for guests and a lot of cooking.  In fact, I wrote a blog on handling holiday stress and I did put into practice some of my suggestions. How To Avoid Holiday Stress

Are any of you in this same position?  How are you handling the juggling of life in the busy world that we live in?  Feel free to leave your comments.


Take A Deep Breath


I love to garden.  I love to feel the soil in my hands.  When I am working outdoors, everything is right with the world.  Early in the morning, when the sounds of the world are minimal, I can hear the birds sing.  There might also be a slight breeze blowing.  This is one of the most beautiful and relaxing times for me as I feel the birds are singing their songs to me.  At times it even brings tears to my eyes.



I love plants, flowers and trees.  In this slight breeze I imagine they are dancing and the trees are lifting their branches high in praises to God their maker.

The feel of the soil, the sounds of the air, all bring me to a place of peace and rest.  I feel grounded.  Take some time for yourselves to just breathe deeply, relax and forget the cares of the world.  Be at peace, but also become energized by nature.





Why I Don’t Write Poetry, Paint Or Sketch

I don’t write poetry as I don’t think I am poetic.  I don’t paint or sketch as I don’t think of myself as artistic.  However, my creativity comes from making homemade skin care products.

Back in the 90’s I used to work at one of our local malls in their management office.  Towards the end of my tenure and due to some corporate restructuring, I was moved to our Marketing Dept.  This department was in charge of the mall events and public relations.

One weekend we held a health fair and one of the participants was a natural skin care company.  You may ask what skin care has to do with health.  I asked the same thing.  So, one of my associates and I went to their booth and listened to what they had to say about their product.  This company promotes products that are pure, safe and beneficial and botanical in nature.  No harmful ingredients including mineral oil, perfumes, chemicals and dyes are used in these products.  We then agreed to have a hand treatment and I was hooked.  I was so in love with the product and its ideals that I became a consultant right then and there.

Although I still have an association with this company I no longer sell their products.  The concept of safe products has followed me through the years and it has become a habit for me to read labels.  I not only care about what I put into my body, I also care about what I put on my body.

Fast forward several years and I am now making and selling my own home made bath and body care products that are all natural, on a website called Etsy.  My store is Heartfelt Inspirations.  These products are not perfect, but I am not a professional, a fact that I hope to change in the future.

To accomplish this goal I would like to learn more about herbs and essential oils and aromatherapy and take classes to learn how to make a more professional product.  My hope is that this will become my reality in the near future as I now have a vehicle that will afford me the time and financial freedom to accomplish the things that I dream about.

If you would like to learn more about making an online income, contact me for more information